Spirituality is not some kind of path or philosophy to arrive at through thinking comprehending feeling and analysing. Should I be a Socialist or Capitalist. Should I become a vegan or should I stop smoking pot and playing video games. Should I join the Yoga school or learn Martial Arts. Should I do MBA from a premium institute or should I pursue medicine.
Life is simple I want something I work for it.
I need money I find a job, job gives me money.
I need intimacy, I find a partner and fulfil my intimacy needs.
I have social needs so I live in a society and follow the rules and protocols of the society to be accepted and welcomed there.
I have this inherent need to express love and affection so I make food for the guest when they come home and shower them with hospitality.
Most people want sports car , yacht vacations, world travels, new iPhone and pretty much everybody wants to be loved and admired (the more love and admiration the better).
Something or the other is out there and we need to work to get it.
Sadly though we carry that habit in the spiritual journey as well which makes things pretty messed up but that is an entirely different topic we will not address here.
But imagine if you had no such need, you did not want the new car, your neighbours compliment on your beautiful garden, more influential friends, status in the society, recognition etc...What if you did not want any of that.
Would you not feel like a complete idiot driving to office at 8:30 in the morning through horrible traffic to work on meaningless deadlines with people who were represented as a matrix on a spreadsheet.
And the biggest of all desires, having kids and giving them expensive education, saving for their university and generally giving them the best life, that is not only a desire but also a duty to a certain extend, also taking care of parents that is a huge obligation, now maybe parents are financially dependent on you or you have an emotional obligation to show them that you have a successful family or career.
The point is when you can shed all of these things, when you become wise enough to see that you are falsely identifying with the aggregate of all these concepts (and really these concepts are created by your ego to self validate its existence, because in reality it has no substance) these aggregates are all transient and they cannot possibly be you, then you can hope to start a spiritual journey.
Then the only thing left to do is to understand what is this that I am (and why a capital I).
'I am that' by Nissargadatta Maharaj, is probably the best description/summary/discourse on advaita. The first sentence of Patanjali's yoga sutra is half a sentence - 'now yoga'
that is to say - When you have arrived at the maturity to see that whatever you are identifying with, your job, your status, your role as mother or brother or whatever is not really you, then it is inevitable that you would want to investigate that 'what are you, who are you', that is when you start that journey...till then live your life, have fun and enjoy.
If this is not the driving force behind the spiritual journey, if the whole purpose of performing meditative practices is to become more efficient to perform the above roles better then it is not a spiritual journey, its a journey of self improvement maybe but nothing spiritual about it...because a spiritual journey is not about improving the self but about dissolving it.
Strangely as is usually the case with everything in life once we stop having the above agendas we actually end up contributing to those agendas in a more fruitful manner.
Buddha walked out of his house (actually a palace since he was a prince) the day his son was born, while on one level that is the most selfish action any father or husband or son or prince can do he did end up generating more compassion than any other living being.